A reply to my friend "Free Northerner" who is taking a serious approach to the analysis of future marital relationships. link ( http://freenortherner.com/2014/07/04/traditional-family/ )

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I am happy to advise when I see a Christian about to, putting it colourfully, tie himself in knots worrying about how to finesse the future…With too much anxiety about future situations, catalysing your knowledge of the particular ways in which marriage has been weakened in white, European civilisation, you could likely be enervating yourself and de-meaning your future actions by over worry.

Remember what Our Lord said in the Sermon on the Mount : Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” and “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself” Meaning – don’t worry yourself sick, have some faith in yourself and in God. Take care of the things you are facing today.

Remember also that the LORD said through his prophet Hosea: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. This one commands a Christian to explore and gather his intellectual resources to himself. However, he must still remember God’s law and what he wants for his own.

God’s law is for people to be married. So, when we put ourselves into a marriage we are also following his law and the structure that he intends both ourselves and the institution to be. If you give thought to the way you could be a leader in your household even while wifey is putting in some hours at work, then you’ve used your ability to make your knowledge work for you. If a wife wants to be sinful and to break the marriage vows, it is ultimately on her. Of course, the husband should at the same time be doing what he can to take care of the evil thereof. But, the blame of sin would fall on the divorcing wife and those who were complicit in helping her with her sin. You can’t really flinch in anticipation of that conflict that has some chance, but not every chance, to affect you years down the road. That’s not the Christian way.